मातातीर्थ औंसीजन्म दिने आमाप्रति आदर व्यक्त गर्न पौराणिक कालदेखि मनाइदै आएको पर्व हो । आजकोदिन आमाले गरेका महान् र कष्टपूर्णकामहरुको सम्झना गरिन्छ । आजको दिन आमाप्रति सम्मान र आमालाई सम्झनेदिन हो । यिनै आमा जस्ले हामीलाई संसार देखाईन्, पाईला चाल्न ताते ताते गर्दै सिकाईन, गर्भमा राखेर जन्माईन अनि काखमा राखेर पालिन । देवीको प्रतिरुप अनि ममता कि खानी अनि वालापनामा हाम्रा हरेक ईच्छा, आकांक्षा अनि चाहने पुरा गरिदिने, कल्पवृक्ष सरि, यस पृथ्वी लोकका सम्पूर्ण आमाहरुलाई कोटी कोटी नमन छ ।
बैशाख १३, २०७४ —— मातृदेवो भव । पितृदेवो भव ।। आचार्यदेवो भव ।।। ‘जननी जन्मभूमिश्च स्वर्गादपि गरियसी‘ ‘कुपुत्रो जायते क्वचिदपि कुमाता न भवति’ उल्लेखित संस्कृत श्लोकहरुले आमा अर्थात मातृ महिमा बोकेका छन् । आज वैशाख कृष्णपक्षको औंसी- यिनै महिमा बोकेकी आमाको मुख हेर्ने दिन अर्थात मातातीर्थ औंसी । शास्त्रहरुमा आमालाई पिताभन्दा उच्च स्थानमा राखिएको पाइन्छ । यसरी श्रद्धा, भक्ति, सम्मान र आदर गरिएकी आमालाई मिठो खान तथा राम्रो लगाउन दिई छोराछोरीहरुले आमाबाटशुभ आशिर्वाद ग्रहण गर्ने चलन छ । आमाप्रति विशेष भक्ति र भावयुक्त सम्मानगरिएको हुँदा यस दिनलाई आमाको मुख हेर्ने दिन भनिन्छ । यस घडिलाई मातातिर्थ औंसी, मातृऔंसी एवं मातृ दिवस पनि भन्ने गरिन्छ ।
आजको दिन आमाप्रति सम्मान र आमालाई सम्झनेदिन हो । संसारको सबैभन्दा पवित्र नाता, आमा संसारको सबैभन्दा पवित्र सम्बोधन, आमा हामीमध्य धेरैले सर्वप्रथम बोल्न सीकेको शब्द, आमा अनि पल पलमा संझना आउने, सुख्ख दुख्खमा झझल्को आउने एउटा अनुहार, आमा बिहान सबेरै उठी स्नान गरी आमालाई उपहार प्रदानगर्ने, मिष्ठान्न भोजन खुवाई आमाको मुख हेर्ने र आशिर्वाद लिने गरिन्छ । आज आमाबाट टाढा रहेका सन्तानहरु आमालाई भेट्न पुग्छन् । आमालाई मीठा खानेकुरा खुवाउँछन् । विवाह गरेर पतिका घर गएका चेलीबेटीहरु मिठा परिकारहरु सहित आमाघर अर्थात माइतपुग्दछन् ।
विभिन्न कारणले आमालाई भेट्न नपाएकाहरुले भने संचारका साधनहरु मार्फत पनिसम्झने गर्दछन् । मानिसहरुले सामाजिक सञ्जालहरुका माध्यमबाट पनि आमाप्रतिका भावनासम्झनाहरु व्यक्त गर्दछन् । पौराणीक कालदेखिनै मनाउदै आएको यस आमाको मुख हेर्ने दिन आमाले गरेका महान् र कष्टपूर्णकामहरुको सम्झना गरिन्छ । आमा नभएकाहरूले पनि आमाको आत्माको मुक्तिको कामना गर्दै आज श्राद्धतर्पण गरी मातृत्वको स्मरण गर्दछन् । आज काठमाडौं उपत्यकाका नेवार समुदायले भने भक्तपुरको हनुमानघाट पुगी आमाको सम्झनामा परम्परा अनुसार श्राद्ध तर्पण गर्दछन् । तपाँई पनि आमावाट पर हुनुहुन्छ भने एकफेर आमालाई फोन गरेर आवाज सुन्ने पो हो कि ? या आमाको याद अनि स्मरण गर्दै साथीभाईसँग आफ्नी आमाको वर्णन र स्नेहको वृतान्त सुनाएर आमाको याद ताजा गर्ने पो हो कि ? जे गर्नुहुन्छ, राम्रो काम गर्नुहोस्, जगतको भलो होस्, आमाको माया र वहाँले खुवाउनुभएका दुधका धर्साहरु प्रति हामी वफादार र ईमान्दार हुन जरुरी छ ।
आजभोली विभिन्न कारणले आमा बुवालाई वास्ता नगर्ने अनि वृद्धाश्रम लगायत आगन्तुक ठाँउमा लगेर राख्ने चलन वढ्दै गएको छ, जून मानवता प्रतिनै एउटा आक्षेप हो । समय त खोला न हो, आफूले गरेका कुराहरु आफैलाई फर्किने समय पनि आँउछ, वगेको समयमा आफ्नो दायीत्ववाट विमुख हुनु मानव चरित्र पक्कै हैन है । मातातीर्थ औंसीका दिन काठमाडौंको थानकोट नजिकै अवस्थित मातातीर्थमा धुमधामका साथ मेला लाग्ने गर्दछ । तिर्थाटनमा सहभागीहरुले मातातीर्थ कुण्डमा स्नान गर्दछन् । जनश्रुति अनुसार पहिले मातातीर्थमा गोठालाहरुले गाईवस्तुहरु चराउने मैदान थियो । एक दिन त्यो मैदानमा एउटा गोठालाले फ्याँकेको रोटीको टुक्रा अनाचक हराउन पुग्यो ।
त्यो घटनाले गोठालाहरु अचम्मित भए । गोठालाले पुनस् अरु रोटीका टुक्राहरु पनि फ्याँके । ती टुक्राहरु क्रमशस् हराउँदै गए । ती गोठालाहरु मध्ये एउटाको आमा थिइन् भने अरुका आमा थिएनन् । तर आमा हुने गोठालाले फालेको रोटीको टुक्रा भने हराएनन् । आमा नहुने गोठालाहरुले फ्याँकेका रोटीका टुक्रामात्रै हराए । उक्त दिन बैशाख कृष्णपक्ष औंसी थियो । यो कुरा अरु गाउँलेहरुले पनि थाहा पाए ।
गाउँलेहरुले उक्त दिन मृत्यू भइसकेका आमाले छोराछोरीले दिएका चिज खाँदारहेछन् भन्ने विश्वास गरे । हरेक बर्ष उक्त औंसीका दिन मातातीर्थको चौरमा आमाको मृत्यू भइसकेकाहरुले विभिन्न मिष्ठान भोजन लगि चढाउन थाले । पछि त्यहाँ एउटा कुण्ड समेत बनाइयो र मातातीर्थका नामले प्रचलनमा ल्याइयो । यसरी हरेक बर्ष आमा नहुनेहरुले मातातीर्थमा गई त्यहाँको कुण्डमा नुहाउने र मृतक आमाका नाममा मीठामीठा खाद्यपदार्थ चढाउने प्रचलन कायम भयो । आमाप्रतिको श्रद्धास्वरुप मातातीर्थमा ‘साझा आमा’ को मूर्ति समेत स्थापना गरियो ।
मातातीर्थ औंसीजन्म दिने आमाप्रति आदर व्यक्त गर्न पौराणिक कालदेखि मनाइदै आएको पर्व हो । आजकोदिन आमाले गरेका महान् र कष्टपूर्णकामहरुको सम्झना गरिन्छ । आजको दिन आमाप्रति सम्मान र आमालाई सम्झनेदिन हो । यिनै आमा जस्ले हामीलाई संसार देखाईन्, पाईला चाल्न ताते ताते गर्दै सिकाईन, गर्भमा राखेर जन्माईन अनि काखमा राखेर पालिन । देवीको प्रतिरुप अनि ममता कि खानी अनि वालापनामा हाम्रा हरेक ईच्छा, आकांक्षा अनि चाहने पुरा गरिदिने, कल्पवृक्ष सरि, यस पृथ्वी लोकका सम्पूर्ण आमाहरुलाई कोटी कोटी नमन छ साभार- हाम्रो पात्रो/ सुयोग ढकाल
Love is a complex and powerful force, one that plays out in a number of emotional, cognitive and social ways.
When we love a person, we feel emotional arousal in their presence. We will also have a set of thoughts (or cognitions) about that person, and our previous experiences can shape our ideas about what we expect in our relationships. For example, if you believe in love at first sight, then you are more likely to experience it.
But we use love in many different contexts. You might say that you love your partner, or your family, or your best friend, your job or even your car. Clearly, you’re using the term in different ways that highlight the various dimensions of love.
The ancient Greeks described several different types of love. Following the Greeks, the sociologist and activist John Alan Lee suggested that there are six broad styles of love.
It is good to keep in mind that although these love styles can be thought of as “types”, we are not necessarily locked into only one. We might have a predominant love style, but we will also have some elements of the other styles.
Similarly, our love style might change over time based on our experiences and interactions with our partners.
When we love a person, we feel emotional arousal in their presence. We will also have a set of thoughts (or cognitions) about that person, and our previous experiences can shape our ideas about what we expect in our relationships. For example, if you believe in love at first sight, then you are more likely to experience it.
But we use love in many different contexts. You might say that you love your partner, or your family, or your best friend, your job or even your car. Clearly, you’re using the term in different ways that highlight the various dimensions of love.
The ancient Greeks described several different types of love. Following the Greeks, the sociologist and activist John Alan Lee suggested that there are six broad styles of love.
It is good to keep in mind that although these love styles can be thought of as “types”, we are not necessarily locked into only one. We might have a predominant love style, but we will also have some elements of the other styles.
Similarly, our love style might change over time based on our experiences and interactions with our partners.
1. Eros
This style is typically experienced as a romantic, fairytale-type love. Physical beauty is important to this love style. Attraction is intense and immediate (“head over heels”), and the Eros lover feels an urgent drive to deepen the relationship emotionally and physically.
Because these individuals love the feeling of being in love, they tend to be serial monogamists, staying in a relationship as long as it feels fresh and compelling, then moving on so they can experience those same feelings again with someone new.
This style is typically experienced as a romantic, fairytale-type love. Physical beauty is important to this love style. Attraction is intense and immediate (“head over heels”), and the Eros lover feels an urgent drive to deepen the relationship emotionally and physically.
Because these individuals love the feeling of being in love, they tend to be serial monogamists, staying in a relationship as long as it feels fresh and compelling, then moving on so they can experience those same feelings again with someone new.
2. Storge
Storgic types tend to be stable and committed in their relationships. They value companionship, psychological closeness and trust. For these individuals, love relationships can sometimes grow out of friendships, so that love sneaks up on the pair. This love style is enduring, and these individuals are in it for the long haul.
Storgic types tend to be stable and committed in their relationships. They value companionship, psychological closeness and trust. For these individuals, love relationships can sometimes grow out of friendships, so that love sneaks up on the pair. This love style is enduring, and these individuals are in it for the long haul.
3. Ludus
People with a ludic style view love as a game that they are playing to win. Often this can be a multiplayer game! Ludic individuals are comfortable with deception and manipulation in their relationships. They tend to be low on commitment and are often emotionally distant.
Because ludic individuals are more focused on the short term, they tend to place greater importance on the physical characteristics of their mate than do the other love styles. They are also more likely to engage in sexual hookups.
People with a ludic style view love as a game that they are playing to win. Often this can be a multiplayer game! Ludic individuals are comfortable with deception and manipulation in their relationships. They tend to be low on commitment and are often emotionally distant.
Because ludic individuals are more focused on the short term, they tend to place greater importance on the physical characteristics of their mate than do the other love styles. They are also more likely to engage in sexual hookups.
4. Pragma
Practicality rules for this type. Logic is used to determine compatibility and future prospects. This doesn’t mean that these individuals use an emotionless, Spock-like approach to their relationships, rather they a place a high importance on whether a potential mate will be suited to meeting their needs.
These needs might be social or financial. Pragmatists might wonder if their prospective partner would be accepted by family and friends, or whether they’re good with money. The might also evaluate their emotional assets; for example, does a would-be partner have the skills to be calm in times of stress?
Practicality rules for this type. Logic is used to determine compatibility and future prospects. This doesn’t mean that these individuals use an emotionless, Spock-like approach to their relationships, rather they a place a high importance on whether a potential mate will be suited to meeting their needs.
These needs might be social or financial. Pragmatists might wonder if their prospective partner would be accepted by family and friends, or whether they’re good with money. The might also evaluate their emotional assets; for example, does a would-be partner have the skills to be calm in times of stress?
5. Mania
This refers to an obsessive love style. These individuals tend to be emotionally dependent and to need fairly constant reassurance in a relationship. Someone with this love style is likely to experience peaks of joy and troughs of sorrow, depending on the extent to which their partner can accommodate their needs.
Because of the possessiveness associated with this style, jealousy can be an issue for these individuals.
This refers to an obsessive love style. These individuals tend to be emotionally dependent and to need fairly constant reassurance in a relationship. Someone with this love style is likely to experience peaks of joy and troughs of sorrow, depending on the extent to which their partner can accommodate their needs.
Because of the possessiveness associated with this style, jealousy can be an issue for these individuals.
6. Agape
Agapic individuals are giving and caring, and are centred on their partner’s needs. This is largely a selfless and unconditional love. An agapic partner will love you just as you are. But they will also be particularly appreciative of acts of care and kindness that they receive back from their partner.
Perhaps because these individuals are so accepting, they tend to have very high levels of relationship satisfaction.
The truth about love
The kind of love that we feel towards our significant other is likely to change over time. At the start of a relationship we feel anticipation about seeing our partner and we are excited every time we see them.
These are the heady feelings we associate with being in love, and are very characteristic of romantic love. But in almost all relationships, these intense emotions are not sustainable, and will fade over months to a couple of years.
Those passionate feelings will then be replaced by deeper connection as the people in the partnership grow to truly know each other. This stage is “companionate love” and can last a lifetime (or beyond).
Unfortunately, many people do not realise that the evolution from romantic love to companionate love is a normal – and indeed healthy – transition. Because the ardent feelings of adoration subside, sometimes people will think that they have fallen out of love, when in fact the intimacy and closeness of companionate love can be extremely powerful, if only given the chance.
The kind of love that we feel towards our significant other is likely to change over time. At the start of a relationship we feel anticipation about seeing our partner and we are excited every time we see them.
These are the heady feelings we associate with being in love, and are very characteristic of romantic love. But in almost all relationships, these intense emotions are not sustainable, and will fade over months to a couple of years.
Those passionate feelings will then be replaced by deeper connection as the people in the partnership grow to truly know each other. This stage is “companionate love” and can last a lifetime (or beyond).
Unfortunately, many people do not realise that the evolution from romantic love to companionate love is a normal – and indeed healthy – transition. Because the ardent feelings of adoration subside, sometimes people will think that they have fallen out of love, when in fact the intimacy and closeness of companionate love can be extremely powerful, if only given the chance.
The former Law Minister and present Constituent Assembly member, Brijesh Kumar Guptas wife Sangita Brijesh Gupta has claimed that she has become the prey of domestic violence from the hand of the latter.
The duo had knotted the nuptial knot some seven years back and since the day, the husband started demanding a Scorpio four wheeler as a dowry, said misses Goupta, in her tearful eyes in the press conference organized at Reporters Club on Thursday. Sangita who claims to have been the better half of Brijesh, however, stated that she was forced to adopt forceful abortion two times causing that her parents failed to fulfill the demands of Brijesh.
Sangita stated that Brijesh thrashed her out from their house four months ago and has warned not to visit him again or she would be killed. She also said that she had reported her case to National Women Commission, Terai Madhes Loktantatrik Party from which Brijesh is the CA member, CA chairman Subash Nembang, Gaushala Police station but they all turned a deaf ear. She said that they have a son of four years old.
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